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Sons of Narcissistic Mothers

  Narcissists have been in the news lately because every amateur and professional psychologist describes Donald J Trump, the new President of the USA, as one. But what is a Narcissist? According to the Mayo Clinic,   “Narcissistic personality disorder is a mental...

Management Without The Mask

Management and leadership have various different models and styles we can adopt. We might struggle with the balance between concern for results and concern for team members. We can be coercive or cooperative in how we work with the people in our team. Wearing a...

Do Men Need Better Maps?

Many of my clients are men who have lost their direction in some aspect of their lives. A crisis in career, breakdown of a relationship, or a more general sense of dissatisfaction with the direction of their lives, has prompted them to seek support to explore their...

Being On The Receiving End Of Poor Management.

For the last two decades I have worked with Employee Assistance Programmes as a psychotherapist. An EAP offers support to employees of large companies in the form of legal helplines, financial advice, personal support and sometimes as face-to-face counselling. That’s...

Sink or Swim

According to Forbes magazine, 46% of all new hires leave their posts within 18 months. The vast majority of these appointment failures are because the candidates lack the soft skills to perform rather than the job-specific skills. If you thought that this was an...

Do you feel like a kid when you get feedback?

Lots of people feel like a child when they are dealing with authority figures. It holds them back and stops them from dealing with the world in an effective way, especially at work. Maybe this is you – if so, would you like it to be different? Change your ego-state to...

There once was an Ugly Duckling…

That’s the first line of a cute little song by Danny Kaye (you won’t remember him!) and the story was all about an ugly duckling who turned out to be a cygnet. When he lost his dull brown feathers he became a beautiful white swan, but he had to be shown his reflection...

Why Don’t I Know What I Want?

They didn't teach you at school how to work this out when I was a kid. Most people I know went for a quick answer, chose a life path, and got on with following it. We tended to base our choices on a range of influences. Maybe you have also run your life like this? My...

A Million Choices

What if every choice created a new world? Iain Banks, who died recently, wrote a novel called Transition, based in a universe where our world appears an infinite number of times, with every choice by every person making a new, parallel world where everything is...

We are always becoming

This great talk explains how we fool ourselves that we are "completed" at every age of our lives.  At every age, we change and change again.  The message?  We keep on changing, over and over, and this gives us the opportunity to reinvent ourselves....

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